Families, carers and friends of a person with BPD often need support for themselves, so they are better able to provide support. Finding a counsellor, friend or other support can be important. While there are many supports for carers in general (i.e. not specific to carers of someone with BPD), many people find it useful to have support specifically relating to BPD.
For easy reference, you can download our When A Family Member Or Friend Has Borderline Personality Disorder or the Australian BPD Foundation’s Help Tips for Families and Carers flyer.
BPD-specific carer resources
Learning More About BPD: A Workshop for Families and Friends
This one-day workshop has been co-designed by Spectrum’s Carer Consultant and Spectrum clinical staff. It’s an opportunity to learn more about BPD and explore common questions. This workshop is also offered as a four-week evening series.
This workshop provides information about BPD and how to best support the person we care about whilst still caring for ourselves. The group explores a number of educational and practical approaches to learning new skills within a supportive environment amongst other carers. NB: a confirmed diagnosis of BPD is not required for families or friends to attend. This workshop is for families and friends, not for mental health workers.
For more information, visit Spectrum’s Eventbrite page.
Resources and programs not associated with Spectrum
The Australian BPD Foundation, via their website and Facebook page, post items that may be of interest to people with BPD and their carers. They also offer a subscription to a monthly eBulletin and quarterly newsletter.
Project Air Strategy for Personality Disorders based in NSW has a very informative website with a comprehensive range of fact sheets and treatment guidelines. Click here to view.
Mind Australia’s monthly carer support group for people supporting someone with BPD. Mind Australia, is a community-managed mental health service (i.e. one of the many non-clinical, non-government services providing mental health support in Australia). It runs a monthly support group for carers and families of someone with BPD. For more information, see Mind Australia’s website or call 1300 550 265 (for callers within Victoria).
The Family Connections Program is a 12-session course providing education, skills training, and support for people who are in a relationship with someone who has BPD. The course content is based on the principles of Dialectical Behavioural Therapy. It has been developed by the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (NEA-BPD). For more information, see the NEA-BPD Australia website.
Fostering Realistic Hope Workshop -The Bouverie Centre, Victoria’s Family Institute, run a workshop series for families and carers of someone with BPD. For more information, see the Bouverie Centre’s website, or phone (03) 9385 5100. The Bouverie Centre also offers family therapy, and has some expertise in working with families where a member has BPD. For more information click here to download the flyer and here to view the website.
BPD Community provides a voice for all members of the BPD community in Victoria. BPD Community exists to help ease the sense of isolation that can be common for people affected by a diagnosis of BPD. The community aims to provide a supportive community of like-minded people who understand the challenges of BPD. Click here to view.
Other resources that you may find helpful include:
- Mental Health Carer Support Groups. To find one nearby in Victoria, go to the Tandem Inc. website.
- Mind Mental Health Carer Helpline. Phone 1300 554 660 during business hours.
- Mental Health Carer Counselling Service offered by Mind Australia and Carers Australia (Vic)
- Wellways Helpline. Phone: 1300 111 500 or email
- SANE Australia offer online forums for both carers and people with lived experience. Note: these forums are not specific to BPD, however many people discuss their experiences of a family member with BPD on these online forums.
- COPMI (Children of Parents with a Mental Illness) offers resources for families where a parent has a mental illness. While most of COPMI’s materials are not BPD-specific, they are an invaluable resource for parents, whose mental illness affects their parenting, as well as for children affected by a parent’s mental illness.
Many other mental health organisations and Facebook groups offer support and online resources of somewhat varied relevance to carers of people with BPD. Some people find particular groups invaluable, while other groups are short-lived or not specifically useful. It can be helpful to ask around and see what people in similar circumstances to you have found helpful. Please be mindful of your privacy and that of your family. We suggest you use a non-identifiable pseudonym when making inquiries.